Over 40 million couples in America are considered asexual–only having sex 10 or less times per year–but they didn’t start out this way. For most, it was a gradual drift. For those who are having sex regularly, most couples struggle to openly talk about sex and intimacy–one of the most important aspects of a relationship. Whether you’re not having much sex, or just want to keep your romance and sex life strong, use these 60+ questions to help you and your mate start–and continue–the conversation about romance and sex. Learn more about what your partner wants and needs. Find out if you’re missing key signals with one another. Help your partner better understand you and your desires. Start here to create greater intimacy, and improve your sex life and relationship.